I have been studying the subject. In short terms, I have been emotionally abused all my life, although my self esteem never was lost. There come a day when I said to myself that I wouldn’t stand it anymore.
I chose to be happy
and never again give anybody the power to hurt me. That doesn’t mean I built a barrier around; quite the contrary
But it is a fact – nobody, no matter what kind of abusing words chose to greet me with, has the power to hurt. I don’t hate anybody and I do not seek revenge. I call it FREEDOM
– it is in our brain it is a choice. Afterwards I decided to try to find the reason why people are so unkind to each other. And I realized that this works like a chain – nobody teaches you, because few people understand what is going on. A has just been told something unpleasant by someone “higher” than him He needs to get rid of that negative feeling.
So, A goes to B and says something nasty. (B is “lower” than A). B needs to take this weight off his shoulders; therefore he goes to C and says something rude. Chain of events: someone was unkind to A and it propagates endlessly.
The meaning for” Higher and Lower” is that either the person his above the other on a professional base or has some power over the other, even just emotional power.
People have always had the tendency to make confidences to me; probably they understand that I never talk about other people’s lives.
After releasing the burden they think “Oh, what have I done?” And the next thing you know they are saying something unkind and untruth about me. Do I care? NO. I couldn’t are less, it doesn’t hurt it doesn’t change my life or my smile
We are born into this culture, our parents are not aware so can’t teach us. There are very few people that mange to get rid of this.
But let me say it too, you pay a price for this freedom; society will not accept independent minds.”
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